BUILD YOUR OWN SAFETY NET

HOME is supposed to be a safe place that provides you with a safety net when you need it. But for many of us, the home we knew growing up didn’t feel safe. And perhaps the home you live in now doesn’t either. What can you do about it?

When I left my 25-year marriage and got my own apartment, my mother asked if I had a microwave. “Yes.” A smoke detector? “Yes.” She then handed me a check without blinking an eye. I looked at her with shock. Was she giving me a token check to express her concern about my physical safety? Was it for my financial safety? Regardless, she never showed any emotional concern for me at this difficult time. And to help me financially, her check was a drop in the bucket.

In fact, at the time of my divorce in 1996, I didn’t know Mom had been cheating me out of my inheritance for years. When Dad died in 1965, she had embezzled my share of his estate for herself. No attempt had been made to rectify this wrong while she was alive. It wasn’t even discovered until she died at age 90 in 2005.

It’s no wonder that, in her presence, I didn’t feel safe to be myself. Mom had never provided me with an emotional safety net, not after Dad died when I was 16 and certainly not after my divorce. And she’d already taken away my financial safety net.

What does having a safety net look and feel like? For me, it means more than having a roof over my head (even if it wasn’t mine), food I could eat, and money in the bank. Emotionally, a lot of repair work had to be done on my damaged Energy side. It needed attention and support, which was just as critical as having physical and financial support. I had to build my own safety net and I encourage you to do the same—whether the damage happened in the past or continues in the present.

Your Energy side is your Soul—the true YOU—that must be nourished. Spending time in nature is one of the best remedies to heal a wounded, fragmented Soul. So is variety. And self-love. These are steps you can take toward building your own valuable emotional safety net.

Will building your safety net for the Energy parts of you take time? Yes. Will it take effort? Yes. But you’ll never regret any investment of time and effort toward making yourself whole. No matter your age or your situation, it’s not too late to create a strong safety net for your own well-being.

Start building today.

In Peace,
Mariane

Find answers on how to build your safety net in my books on Energy—Abuse & Energy, Deep Energy, and Peace & Energy—available at Amazon, Barnes & Noble, Bookshop.org, and your favorite independent bookstores.